During my corporate work life when my daughter was still a child I met Hillary Clinton when making his first bid to become a senator from New York. As I walked down the hallway with her I told her that she, like her, I was a mother of only child, a girl. Then I asked her what she could give me advice on raising girls. She told me to read her book "It takes a village ."
I was not sure how it could help me then, but the recent incident with my daughter back this time with Hillary.
Last week my daughter got off the bus from school upset. She was complaining about what happened on that day break (quite common). When I asked her if she wanted to talk about it, she said no.
I tried distracting her by reminding her that we were on our way to the hairdresser, where she would get a haircut and some highlights in her hair. I thought it was radio interference, since lost sour mood and got excited about the trip to the hairdresser.
When we arrived, she tried to do some homework, but she still seemed to be fretting a little more. Could be an adult conversation was pretending not to listen, or just a natural reluctance to do homework. I was not sure.
is finally her turn her hair trimmed and a cape was put on the hair casually asked how her day was. She said it was the worst ever for the incident to rest, and then proceeded to describe what happened. hairdresser just nodded, acknowledging made noises and went about trimming my daughter's hair. At the end of my daughter's story, only the hairdresser said: "It sounds like it was very upsetting, " and my daughter said "it was, but I feel better now ."
That's when I realized Hillary Clinton's remark. Sometimes your child needs someone to talk to who does! Sometimes children just need to vent about things that happened that day without getting parental advice or strategies to deal with if it happens again. Sometimes you just need to talk. Perhaps this is why so many of them are in some kind of therapy at an early age - every time they tell us how they feel give them solutions instead of just listening to
.point of Hillary books that our children can benefit from the whole community we are part of - teachers, relatives, friends, and even, occasionally a hair salon. It not only provides your child with someone who does not talk, but can also help your child sees the situation from another perspective.
Do you have a good friend who can listen to your child once in awhile? Maybe even a hairdresser?
